Love Makes Fools Of Women Don't do it! Don't be a fool for love! By Boni Montes' de Oca

What will women do for love?  It looks like just about anything. We will chase after men, be treated badly, give in to situations we don’t really want to,  jump into the sack,  stay with men that don’t treat us with respect, and the list goes on and on. Why do we do this? Why have we let men have the upper hand in the relationship? Why do we live in fear that he is going to leave? Why have we given our power away?

For love…we think that if we don’t give in that we won’t have love..we will do anything just don’t leave me.

I had a friend once that after her divorce she said that “A bad relationship is better than no relationship.”  I heartily disagree. It is better to be by yourself than to be in anguish and turmoil daily.

I have been married 3 times. I am in a good marriage now, although we have been through some rough times. He is very willing to talk about things and work through them. Granted, a rarity for a man. Men don’t like to “talk about the problems.”  So I have spent part of my life without a spouse. Dated quite a bit between husbands so I have experience in what I am discussing.

When I speak to young women on how to find the right man one of the things that I tell them first is to know what you will and will not allow into your life. Know that you want someone in your life that will treat you with kindness and respect and if they don’t treat you that way then you break it off. You have to set a standard and live by that standard.

If you set the expectation of being treated well then you will end up with someone that does treat you well. If you allow someone to treat you disrespectfully then it will only get worse with time. By then you are married and have a couple of kids. Then what?

Make the decision beforehand. I will be treated with love and respect…and I will treat you the same way.  I will not be a fool for love and be treated poorly.  Have some respect for yourself first.